The Gosling: Six years Old
Late night, June 3rd., 2020, my wife and I and four other people were
gifted the birth of 'Virginia' in Minneapolis at a hospital we were
not allowed to enter, during a time when protestors and looters stormed
the streets setting fire to businesses; during the time the governor
called in the Minnesota National Guard and more state-wide law
enforcement agencies than had ever been called to service at one time
since World War II; I-35 and major routes were closed off surrounding
the hospital; and a pandemic of mythical proportion stalked the most
vulnerable people of the world.
My story could be
exaggeration as I’ve been known to do on occasion, but as Mark Twain is
to have said, “Truth is stranger than fiction, but it is because fiction is obliged to stick to possibilities; Truth isn't.”
Virginia was born during a time when grandparents couldn’t be
present in a hospital on the birthing day at the invitation of its
parents; couldn’t crowd the nursery window to see their progeny among
the other newborns (not quite as beautiful); couldn’t congratulate each
other in person with hugs, pats on the back, fist-bumps, nor share tears
and sniffles that accompany such emotional extension.
‘Back in the day,’ we could lean in close and coo at the swaddled child
in its proud, but tired, mother’s arms, nod and smile knowingly as the
exuberant father distributed cigars of tobacco, or milk chocolate foiled-wrapped in pink or blue, and then all gather around the proud
parents and child for an impromptu family photo in the sterility of the
hospital room.
But that didn’t happen. Apart from one
another, we all shared the anticipation of the announcement of its birth
from an excited new father who had experienced his or her baby’s
emergence from the womb, but we weren’t there. We were no more part of
its birth than if it was born a gosling on Mikinaak Creek..
One grandmother started a group text messaging number, so we could
share our anxieties unknown by the expectant parents, unseen from one
another, across cyberspace. Apart, in our own little familiar worlds, we
all waited through the anxious hours leading up to its birth, thinking
of the arduous labor of the mother and if she was getting any rest; the
fears of the father, the grandmothers recalling their own birthing
experiences, each of us in our own homes, hour upon hour, texting our
group chat conversation to add some thought or worry, apart city and
country; blissfully apart from all the societal drama playing out below
on the streets of Minneapolis quarantined for now against the spread of
Covid-19.
After midnight, with still no news from 'Dad,' we
decided to go to bed in our part of the world. While we were sound
asleep, we got a group text message sent by the father at 2:40 am
announcing their daughter’s birth after 25! hours of labor, and an
eagerness by them to get some sleep afterward. But I didn’t discover the
message until 4:00 in the morning when I had to get out of bed ‘on an
errand.’ It was hard to go back to sleep after that.
Yet, we
had no name, no weight, no ‘height’, no photo; no news except a text
that said mama and baby were doing fine, and included assurances from
the new father that when the time was right they would let us know more.
But meant more waiting, for several hours more.
The
parents eventually video-chatted with us from the hospital, the baby
asleep against her father’s chest in a chair as her very tired mother
rested comfortably in an adjoining bed, stroking the baby’s forehead and
hair. Closely watching my reaction, my daughter said the baby was named
after my late sister, Virginia Wilson, and the baby’s father’s sister, formally, but
would be called a nickname that slips easier off the tongue. Of course, I became teary-eyed as I know my sister
would’ve been greatly honored and wildly excited; she was just that way.
The parents and the child left the hospital when the time was right
arriving home from there within a few short minutes, and entering
immediately into a self-imposed 14 day quarantine apart from the world
at large -- and their families, once again. Tick, tick, tick.
Thanks to interactive technology, the young family is keeping us abreast of baby's development.
It may be a month or more before any of us can but look at the child
through the window, reminiscent of such news received by families
thousands of impossible miles away in unfortunate locations due to
military deployment or career choices, but here we are, near, just
downstream.
A sweet remembrance of a trying time. And this Virginia is curious about your Virginia’s nickname.
ReplyDeleteJust like yours dearie, just like yours.
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